Romantic relationships can be like a deck of cards. They begin with diamonds and hearts and end with clubs and spades.
Love at first sight, and divorce at first fight.
Ever wonder what makes a relationship meaningful, genuine, or lasting forever? Ever wonder what real Love is?
Love is not only the three words we tell a person “I Love You,” But Love is also more than those sentiments and touchy feelings we have.
Love is not a noun; Love is a verb. It is full of action.
Imagine a guy saying to a girl, “I Love You.” And she replies with: “Can you give me a lift to go to college.”
He says: “No, I mean it, I truly love you.”
She says: “But can you drop me to the college?”
He says: “But I love you from the bottom of my heart.”
Those three words, “I Love You,” in any relationship, those words only have as much depth and meaning as the attitude to serve the beloved.
Love is less about romance and more about respect. Remember that romantic feelings are always in flux, they are here today, but not tomorrow.
Today you can be in a great mood and have those romantic feelings, truly feel them. But tomorrow you might be in a bad mood, and so you don’t feel those romantic feelings.
Also remember that the initial charm in any relationship, goes down with time, but respect for each other and respect for each other’s individuality doesn’t die down with time, the connection will forever be there for your partner.
Feelings go down with time; respect doesn’t. And is that respect, not the romance, but the connection that becomes the foundation for all of our feelings, which can sometimes be like an emotional roller coaster.
Many of us think that if the romance is gone, if you no longer feel butterflies in your stomach, that your relationship is dying out, but that is mealy an illusion all relationships go thru, especially when we are young in our 20’s.
Love is less about my rights and more about responsibilities for your welfare. It means striving for the physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being of the person whom we truly love.
Love is less about knowing the person and more about caring for the person.
As the saying goes “I don’t care how much you know until I know how much you care.” A caring heart walks more than the extra mile to offer service to the beloved.
Love is an excellent blend of caring and daring. I am daring to stand up and accept the person completely, regardless of their faults and shortcomings.
Daring to practice virtue and forgiveness, and to be able to let go of the mistakes and the blunders your partner did or will do.
Love is like the beautiful, colorful, fragrant rose, those emotional feelings. But it is also like accepting the thorn that comes along with the rose; those weaknesses, shortcomings, and faults.
Love is about complete acceptance, a package deal just like a rose, beautiful in its color and fragrance. But it is also coming along with the thorn.
Source – Gaur Gopal Das
